When you hear someone say they are happy with their lives, what perception do you get from that? Do you instantly think they have a loving spouse or significant other? Maybe they are well off and never have to worry about money? Does it make you think that maybe they never have mood swings or that they don't suffer from anxiety or depression? Maybe their happiness means they have a couple of kids, a cute dog, nice big house, pool, walk in closets full of clothes, fancy cars, trailers, or enough money to vacation whenever and wherever they wish?
I think for most of us, that's what we think of when we see and hear others say they are happy in this life. Does that mean it has to be what your happy life looks like? If your happy means living in the woods in an old cabin while fishing everyday and being out in the wilderness alone, then go get your happiness. If your happiness means shopping everyday because you love it and have the money to do it then by golly go shop till you drop. Do whatever makes you happy not what makes others happy.
Girls, I know one thing that always makes us happy is looking good with or with out clothes on. If you need a little toning or you need to drop some weight then get out there and do it. If you want it, go get it. On a side note, make sure you are working out to look like a better you not like another woman. It's impossible to look exactly like someone else and in all honesty why would you want to? This world would be a boring place if we all looked the same. Embrace your beauty and be the best you that you can be.
This next part is for all of you who are married or in a serious relationship with someone special. It doesn't matter what type of relationship it is either, rather it's Ashley & Sandy or Bill & Ted or Liz & Zach it's all the same and needs to be treated the same. So for all of you, you know how the honeymoon stage knocks both of your socks off and then slowly that starts to fade away? Once it starts to fade away you tend to start thinking about yourself more and not so much of your significant other and their feelings or what they want. What we all need to remember is, even though we have decided to share the rest of our lives with another person doesn't mean we need to give up the things we love or enjoy doing. Make sure you let each other have and do the things in their life that will keep them happy. If your husband or wife wants to paint a wall in the house purple, green or black and it's something they really want to do, then let them do it. It won't kill you or change your life drastically but it will make them happy. If your hubby likes to go hunting then let them do it. If your wife wants to get a doggy door to make life a little easier, then let her. Learn how to give and take a little. Giving in sometimes doesn't make you weak, it makes your lives together a little happier.
So now, what does a happy life look like when you stop and think about it?
From experiences in my life with the friends and family that surround me, I have seen a lot and know that it doesn't matter where you're at in life or how much money you have or if you are single or married with a family. You can still be unhappy in either situation.
One thing I have learned throughout the years is you get what you work for and ask for. If you want to be happy then go make yourself happy. We all know the things that inspire us, the things that make us glow and the things that make us smile from ear to ear. It is your job to go find it, you are the only one who can make yourself truly happy.
I think a lot of times we rely on others to make us happy, that is the worst mistake you could ever make. What happens when that happiness that was brought to you gets taken away? What would you do? How would you pick yourself up and keep moving if you can't make yourself happy?
If there are things in your life that you can't avoid that bring you down such as, anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, or any other factor that is getting in the way, you need to learn how to control it and most importantly you need to learn how to understand it so you can understand yourself.
This life that we are living only comes around once, we only get one
shot at enjoying it and making the most of what we have so don't waste
it.
Till next time,
Kasey, the girl who is trying to stop over thinking, so her life can be happier. ;)
Thursday, January 8, 2015
Wednesday, January 7, 2015
What to do when you hit a block in the Road?
You are cruising down your beautiful life road. The sun is shining, birds are singing, and you're jamming to your favorite tune. All of a sudden the sun is gone, birds flew away and your music shuts off. You look up and stop suddenly. All you can see is your beautiful road has been blocked off.
What do you do, where do you even start, & what road should you decide to take if you can't stay? All of these thoughts instantly start swirling through your mind when you are blindsided by a block in your road.
Do you give up and go home? Should you find a new route to take? Do you stay and work on removing that block in the road so you can proceed forward on your beautiful life road?
Have you ever felt invincible with the road you are on? Have you ever felt like there is no other road you would rather be on? Have you been on the same road for what seems like eternity and never had the slightest thought about it closing down? I'm sure we all have....
In this beautiful life we live, there are a lot of roads we can choose from. How do you truly know you are taking the right one. Can you be sure that it will never close down or be blocked?
I'm not sure sure any of us know the answer to this. Would it be nice to know, would you want to know where your road led too .....?
I would have to say no, I wouldn't want to know. I think sometimes we can choose the wrong road and end up somewhere we never could have imagined. Would that be a bad thing? Would it end up being a blessing in disguise?
All I know is I don't ever want to know what the future holds or where my road is taking me. Knowing the future would ruin future roads that could be taken by ourselves or others. Knowing the future would make us weak as a society. Knowing the future would make us scared to live, love, and grow.
Have you ever hit a block in your beautiful life road that terrified you so much it made you stop in your tracks and then left you with blank thoughts? I'm sure we all have been there. Keep choosing new roads to travel or unblock the one you are on. That's all we can do......
Friday, October 10, 2014
The Cat Calling Men....
This is going to be a favorite for many of you ladies :). This goes out to all you Men/boys who like to make sexual innuendos towards women as they are walking by. Keep in mind, they are minding their own business just trying to get through the day just like you . Do you honestly think we love being uncomfortable, awkward, and feeling like we are just a sexual object to you. Cat Calls can be harassing or even threatening. Never cool sometimes hilarious nevertheless not cool.
Here is some advice for all of you especially the ones that are wanting to find that special woman to be with, don't start out by hollering cat calls. Ponder this for a moment, in the history of this world has anyone actually ever stopped after hearing a cat call and then magically fell in love? Don't get me wrong, there might be a few girls this could work on but trust me this isn't the girl you want to bring home to your mom if you know what I mean.
It changes with season, just as men anxiously await the time of sundresses, women anxiously await the time of cat-calls. Except wait, it's not the same at all, we almost dread it. We get all dolled up, put that cute little black dress on and get excited for the night. We then stop and think for a moment, ( Oh great, I am looking good how many cat calls am I going to get tonight...and it starts). From the moment you walk into a room full of single and or taken men it's on, all eyes on you. It's the most uncomfortable thing ever. Being women we love a nice compliment, what we don't like is feeling the stalker eyes on us the whole night, or seeing you walking behind your wife and making gestures towards us without her knowing. One of the few advantages to winter that makes us women happy is not being objectified all the time but even then we can't seem to get away from it.
Men, you need to learn what women really like and then apply it to all situations before you start using the cat calls. Honestly if we see a cute guy and he just gives us smile that lights us up more than any of the following pick up lines I have heard or read about...... Prepare yourselves for a good laugh.
Till next time
Kasey the over thinker ;)
Here is some advice for all of you especially the ones that are wanting to find that special woman to be with, don't start out by hollering cat calls. Ponder this for a moment, in the history of this world has anyone actually ever stopped after hearing a cat call and then magically fell in love? Don't get me wrong, there might be a few girls this could work on but trust me this isn't the girl you want to bring home to your mom if you know what I mean.
It changes with season, just as men anxiously await the time of sundresses, women anxiously await the time of cat-calls. Except wait, it's not the same at all, we almost dread it. We get all dolled up, put that cute little black dress on and get excited for the night. We then stop and think for a moment, ( Oh great, I am looking good how many cat calls am I going to get tonight...and it starts). From the moment you walk into a room full of single and or taken men it's on, all eyes on you. It's the most uncomfortable thing ever. Being women we love a nice compliment, what we don't like is feeling the stalker eyes on us the whole night, or seeing you walking behind your wife and making gestures towards us without her knowing. One of the few advantages to winter that makes us women happy is not being objectified all the time but even then we can't seem to get away from it.
Men, you need to learn what women really like and then apply it to all situations before you start using the cat calls. Honestly if we see a cute guy and he just gives us smile that lights us up more than any of the following pick up lines I have heard or read about...... Prepare yourselves for a good laugh.
- "You look good in that outfit. I bet you’d look better out of it." Not the most original line, but this is especially funny to me because you have no idea what's going on under our clothes, maybe we haven't shaved for months and you could probably get lost under there. Just trying to make a point and gross you out a little. Hope it helps. :)
- "Your body is serious." Well my body does enjoy reading non-fiction and watching period dramas, so yes.
- "Your body is like butter." what the? Really?
- "You are a goddess amongst peasants." Huh....
- "I’m sorry Miss Tube Top, I am for real." Sung to the tune of OutKast "Mrs Jackson" Wow you are creative
- "Your dad must be a Terrorist because he made a Bomb." Ok, So you are calling my dad a Terrorist?
- "If I were a Fly, I would land on you first because you are the Sh*t." Are you saying I look and smell like Sh*t?
- " Excuse me, can you give me directions." haha I'll give you directions to get lost...
- "I swear I know you." Really because I swear I don't know you and don't want to know you
Till next time
Kasey the over thinker ;)
Thursday, October 9, 2014
Be one together or two separated by trust, love, and loyalty? You decide....
When we sit down and think about our committed relationships with our SO, what comes to your mind? Does happiness pop in, amazing passion, fun, extreme excitement, fear to be let down, anxious for what will happen next. I don't know about all of you but I am checking all of the above.
I have always thought that "LOVE" relationships with the opposite sex, are one of the hardest relationships to make work in this crazy world. There are so many factors that can get in the way of the happiness you once shared with your SO, ( time out for a minute I just want to make sure you all know what SO stands for because till yesterday I didn't lol. It stands for Significant Other.) Anyways back to what I was trying to say. We try so hard to have the "PERFECT RELATIONSHIP." We also try to make sure everyone else knows it. When in reality, no one has the perfect relationship and no one ever will . To me, the perfect relationship is one where you trust and love your SO so much that you will never let them get away with things that are hurting you, making you feel unwanted, or lowering your life quality.
Together you should be lifting each other up and building your life together as two people separated by trust, love, and loyalty. To have a healthy relationship you need to continue your lives as two different people not just as one. Go have fun with the friends, go have a massage, close the door to your room, sing and dance, join a gym or club. Let you man do the same. Doing all of these things will help keep your relationship strong and continue to grow stronger.
Now that I have all that therapy talk out of the way, how many of you actually do this or even want to do it? We as woman are very territorial, naturally might I add. We don't purposely or even truly want to be like that we just are. We love going out with the ladies but sometimes we wish that our men just wanted to stay home instead of going out with the guys lol. We don't want other woman flirting with our men or even looking at them . Trust me, you don't have to be a crazy girl to think like this, it's just who we are. Yes we want them to go have some fun but maybe just fishing in a secluded area with a few close buddies ;) not going out to a night club and having girls trying to dance with them all night and hitting on them. Don't let your men fool you either, they get just as jealous as we do at times. They just put up a good front.
If any of you are like this, like I am at times, GET OVER IT! Be honest with yourself we will never want to give up our "Girl nights out" so in order to continue to have those we need to let the men out too, in moderation of course ;). Don't let me kid you, I have had a hard time with this at times, just stems from fear of being hurt but in reality if you have a healthy relationship that has the trust, love, and loyalty doing this will only make your relationship stronger. It's ok to have a little jealously once in awhile it's normal and if you didn't have any I would be concerned about your feelings for your SO.
Enjoy your life outside of your relationship as well as in your relationship. Just don't let the night outs outweigh your time with that special person in your life. Once in awhile it's just good to have a little break from each other, in the end it will make you want them more.
Till next time,
Kasey the over thinker ;)
I have always thought that "LOVE" relationships with the opposite sex, are one of the hardest relationships to make work in this crazy world. There are so many factors that can get in the way of the happiness you once shared with your SO, ( time out for a minute I just want to make sure you all know what SO stands for because till yesterday I didn't lol. It stands for Significant Other.) Anyways back to what I was trying to say. We try so hard to have the "PERFECT RELATIONSHIP." We also try to make sure everyone else knows it. When in reality, no one has the perfect relationship and no one ever will . To me, the perfect relationship is one where you trust and love your SO so much that you will never let them get away with things that are hurting you, making you feel unwanted, or lowering your life quality.
Together you should be lifting each other up and building your life together as two people separated by trust, love, and loyalty. To have a healthy relationship you need to continue your lives as two different people not just as one. Go have fun with the friends, go have a massage, close the door to your room, sing and dance, join a gym or club. Let you man do the same. Doing all of these things will help keep your relationship strong and continue to grow stronger.
Now that I have all that therapy talk out of the way, how many of you actually do this or even want to do it? We as woman are very territorial, naturally might I add. We don't purposely or even truly want to be like that we just are. We love going out with the ladies but sometimes we wish that our men just wanted to stay home instead of going out with the guys lol. We don't want other woman flirting with our men or even looking at them . Trust me, you don't have to be a crazy girl to think like this, it's just who we are. Yes we want them to go have some fun but maybe just fishing in a secluded area with a few close buddies ;) not going out to a night club and having girls trying to dance with them all night and hitting on them. Don't let your men fool you either, they get just as jealous as we do at times. They just put up a good front.
If any of you are like this, like I am at times, GET OVER IT! Be honest with yourself we will never want to give up our "Girl nights out" so in order to continue to have those we need to let the men out too, in moderation of course ;). Don't let me kid you, I have had a hard time with this at times, just stems from fear of being hurt but in reality if you have a healthy relationship that has the trust, love, and loyalty doing this will only make your relationship stronger. It's ok to have a little jealously once in awhile it's normal and if you didn't have any I would be concerned about your feelings for your SO.
Enjoy your life outside of your relationship as well as in your relationship. Just don't let the night outs outweigh your time with that special person in your life. Once in awhile it's just good to have a little break from each other, in the end it will make you want them more.
Till next time,
Kasey the over thinker ;)
Monday, October 6, 2014
So what if we overthink.....that's what makes us a woman!!
Ready, set, and go. I am finally doing this without any over thinking, weird right? My name is Kasey I am 29 years young and I love to over think, I think it's just part of my womanly duties, I'm learning to have a love hate relationship with it. I am engaged to the cutest, funniest, craziest, best looking man in this whole entire world. We got engaged on June 1st of this year and soon after that the wedding planning began. Exciting right? You would think so but let's be honest planning a big wedding is NOT what I call fun lol. Don't get me wrong it has it's special moments and in the end it will be the most special funnest day of our lives.....so they say ;).
For a man planning a wedding is as easy as saying 123, for a woman it's as easy as saying the alphabet backwards....I don't know if you have ever tried this before but it is very difficult to say the least and I highly recommend not trying it. There is so much to think about when it comes to a wedding, from flowers, to make up, to shoe colors, to hair, to how many drinks should I have before I walk out and make one of the biggest most happiest decisions of my life, to how I should smile at the crowd as I am walking out, to how long should I kiss for after we say I do, to giving everyone hugs or just close family and friends, and the list goes on. This is only a very small portion of what goes through a woman's mind when she is trying to plan this big day she has been dreaming about her whole life. I mean, it has to be perfect because we are about to marry our perfect prince charming and start our perfect life...right?
Am I making you tired yet? Hope not, because I am just getting starting. So anyways back to women and their over thinking, IT"S NOT OUR FAULT I REPEAT IT"S NOT OUR FAULT. Ladies show this to the man in your life so he can see it in writing. We didn't choose to be born a woman and believe me, if I could go back to the moment I was being created I would and I would ask god kindly to please make me a boy. Being a woman has it's positives but when you do a side by side comparison with a man's life it's extremely lopsided. For example.......
Ok, I am so done I said I wasn't going to over think this but I kinda did and now my head hurts lol. Have a good night :)
Till next time,
Kasey the over thinker :)
For a man planning a wedding is as easy as saying 123, for a woman it's as easy as saying the alphabet backwards....I don't know if you have ever tried this before but it is very difficult to say the least and I highly recommend not trying it. There is so much to think about when it comes to a wedding, from flowers, to make up, to shoe colors, to hair, to how many drinks should I have before I walk out and make one of the biggest most happiest decisions of my life, to how I should smile at the crowd as I am walking out, to how long should I kiss for after we say I do, to giving everyone hugs or just close family and friends, and the list goes on. This is only a very small portion of what goes through a woman's mind when she is trying to plan this big day she has been dreaming about her whole life. I mean, it has to be perfect because we are about to marry our perfect prince charming and start our perfect life...right?
Am I making you tired yet? Hope not, because I am just getting starting. So anyways back to women and their over thinking, IT"S NOT OUR FAULT I REPEAT IT"S NOT OUR FAULT. Ladies show this to the man in your life so he can see it in writing. We didn't choose to be born a woman and believe me, if I could go back to the moment I was being created I would and I would ask god kindly to please make me a boy. Being a woman has it's positives but when you do a side by side comparison with a man's life it's extremely lopsided. For example.......
- Women have to have a period once a month, men don't have to go through anything once a month. Even though I swear they have some sort of PMS on a monthly basis but it hasn't been scientifically proven yet, I am working on that.
- Women get blamed for acting crazy even though it's not our fault, we can't control it, you men just need to learn how to cope with it and maybe give us a hug when we are being irrational. Men get the privilege of being able to act some what normal throughout their lives.
- Women have to wake up, shower, shave, blow dry hair, decide what to do with our hair, put on our make-up even though we don't want to, pick out an outfit according to the weather/ activities we will encounter for the day, and then pick out shoes to match accordingly to our outfits. I don't know about all of you but by the time I am done doing all of this I am already tired with the day lol. Men get to wake up shower, throw a hat on or run some gel through their hair, grab a shirt and some pants and their done. My fiance always teases me about this when we are getting ready to go somewhere errrrrrr.
- This is the most unfair one of them all even those it's something special we get to experience and men don't, women have to carry a growing human in their stomachs for 9 months and deal with all the scary changes that are happening to their bodies/minds and then deliver the baby. The only thing men have to worry about is us being crazy while we are pregnant. They have it so rough......
Ok, I am so done I said I wasn't going to over think this but I kinda did and now my head hurts lol. Have a good night :)
Till next time,
Kasey the over thinker :)
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