When we sit down and think about our committed relationships with our SO, what comes to your mind? Does happiness pop in, amazing passion, fun, extreme excitement, fear to be let down, anxious for what will happen next. I don't know about all of you but I am checking all of the above.
I have always thought that "LOVE" relationships with the opposite sex, are one of the hardest relationships to make work in this crazy world. There are so many factors that can get in the way of the happiness you once shared with your SO, ( time out for a minute I just want to make sure you all know what SO stands for because till yesterday I didn't lol. It stands for Significant Other.) Anyways back to what I was trying to say. We try so hard to have the "PERFECT RELATIONSHIP." We also try to make sure everyone else knows it. When in reality, no one has the perfect relationship and no one ever will . To me, the perfect relationship is one where you trust and love your SO so much that you will never let them get away with things that are hurting you, making you feel unwanted, or lowering your life quality.
Together you should be lifting each other up and building your life together as two people separated by trust, love, and loyalty. To have a healthy relationship you need to continue your lives as two different people not just as one. Go have fun with the friends, go have a massage, close the door to your room, sing and dance, join a gym or club. Let you man do the same. Doing all of these things will help keep your relationship strong and continue to grow stronger.
Now that I have all that therapy talk out of the way, how many of you actually do this or even want to do it? We as woman are very territorial, naturally might I add. We don't purposely or even truly want to be like that we just are. We love going out with the ladies but sometimes we wish that our men just wanted to stay home instead of going out with the guys lol. We don't want other woman flirting with our men or even looking at them . Trust me, you don't have to be a crazy girl to think like this, it's just who we are. Yes we want them to go have some fun but maybe just fishing in a secluded area with a few close buddies ;) not going out to a night club and having girls trying to dance with them all night and hitting on them. Don't let your men fool you either, they get just as jealous as we do at times. They just put up a good front.
If any of you are like this, like I am at times, GET OVER IT! Be honest with yourself we will never want to give up our "Girl nights out" so in order to continue to have those we need to let the men out too, in moderation of course ;). Don't let me kid you, I have had a hard time with this at times, just stems from fear of being hurt but in reality if you have a healthy relationship that has the trust, love, and loyalty doing this will only make your relationship stronger. It's ok to have a little jealously once in awhile it's normal and if you didn't have any I would be concerned about your feelings for your SO.
Enjoy your life outside of your relationship as well as in your relationship. Just don't let the night outs outweigh your time with that special person in your life. Once in awhile it's just good to have a little break from each other, in the end it will make you want them more.
Till next time,
Kasey the over thinker ;)
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